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You know how jokes are often funny because they are based in an ugly truth I had a new realization of that phenomena while watching Bill Mahers new stand up comedy special The Decider on HBO the other night. Bill was talking about various recent sexual abuse scandals and was comparing the complaints made against Michael Jackson to complaints made against various Catholic priests with the aim of suggesting that what Michael allegedly did to his victims was gentle compared to the treatment received by victims of the priests. Seemingly out of nowhere, he started talking about a time when he was a child and was rather viciously beaten up during an incident of playground bullying. As part of his punchline, he commented that he would have gladly subjected himself to the worst abuse Michael has been accused of perpetrating rather than having to endure that single beating. The comment resonated with me, probably because like Bill, I too was bullied as a kid, and also found the experience to be pretty ugly. I dont think Id ever choose to subject myself to Michaels ministrations in order to have escaped my own bullying experiences you gotta have standards in life, but I know I would have given a lot to have been able to stop them from happening. The bullying I was subjected to did not occur on the playground, but rather on the school bus. I can vividly recall days when I would have to launch myself out of the school bus door and run as fast as I could up the hill to the shelter of my house. A group of older neighborhood boys would be after me for reasons that were never entirely clear. I was younger, more sensitive, certainly more vulnerable and not talented at fist fighting. Most days Id make it home safely, but some days Id end up belly up on the grass trying to fend off blows and kicks while a ring of kids jeered and cheered that days aggressor. A blow to the head and youd see stars like in the cartoons. Im 4. 0 years old now its been something like 3. Still, the experience has not left me, it sucked so much. I dont think about it much these days, but I know that having lived through those experiences has shaped me as an adult, and not for the better. The experience of getting your face smashed in by bullies or taunted by them, or pushed, or shoved, or excluded, etc. In this spirit, I offer my self disclosure and hijack Bills as seed for discussion. There are lots of programs designed to help schools and other institutions prevent bullying. Its kind of a hot topic these days in a small sort of way. Hopefully the things that researchers have and will come up will help limit the scope of the problem in the future. However, Im quite confident that it will never go away entirely. It seems to me that bullying is just one of those things that are just a part of human nature. Something that can be suppressed but not eliminated. Where I want to go with this essay is not to talk about how to make bullying stop, but rather, to explore the sorts of damage bullies do to their victims, and to discuss a few paths through which some of that damage can be, at least in part, undone. Bullying is Abuse. Heres a few statements to get us started 1 Bullying is a form of abuse, and 2 Bullying is a narcissistic sort of act. In making the first statement here, I mean to say that both bullying and traditional forms of abuse are selfish andor sadistic, destructive, and often violent acts perpetrated upon victims who do not in any way, shape or form deserve to be treated in that manner. In making the second statement Im suggesting that ring leader bullies those who organize bullying are behaving as though the emotional and physical health of their victims is not important or is at least less important than their own desire for the thrill of aggression and dominance. Narcissists treat other people as though they were objects either to be used, or discarded, and the bully both uses his victim for purposes of self gratification and aggrandizement and then discards him. Now, children are fairly narcissistic by their very nature. Children are not born appreciating that other people are actually just like they are with their own needs and independent rights. A long period of development must occur before children grasp that the other people around them have needs and interests just like they do and need to be accommodated and accorded respect. The golden rule of treating others as you would yourself like to be treated makes no sense to a young child who has not yet matured to the point where this basic appreciation of the individuality of every person has been grasped. Instead, children need to be held in line with what amount to incentives and sometimes punishments for acting as though other people matter. So by saying that bullying is a narcissistic action, Im not at all saying that all bullies are narcissists. Adult bullies who have not outgrown their childhood narcissism probably do qualify, but little kids are just going to be that way. This is why Im not terribly optimistic that we can solve the problem of bullying in our time. Bullying Causes Long Term Emotional Damage. The experience of being bullied can end up causing lasting damage to victims. This is both self evident, and also supported by an increasing body of research. It is not necessary to be physically harmed in order to suffer lasting harm. 3D Photo Maker 2 0 22 128 Portable Hot here. Words and gestures are quite enough. In fact, the old saying, Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never harm me is more or less exactly backwards. For the most part, physical damage sustained in a fist fight heals readily, especially damage that is sustained during the resilient childhood years. What is far more difficult to mend is the primary wound that bullying victims suffer which is damage to their self concepts to their identities. Bullying is an attempt to instill fear and self loathing. Being the repetitive target of bullying damages your ability to view yourself as a desirable, capable and effective individual. There are two ugly outcomes that stem from learning to view yourself as a less than desirable, incapable individual. The first ugly outcome is that it becomes more likely that you will become increasingly susceptible to becoming depressed andor angry andor bitter. Being bullied teaches you that you are undesirable, that you are not safe in the world, and when it is dished out by forces that are physically superior to yourself that you are relatively powerless to defend yourself. When you are forced, again and again, to contemplate your relative lack of control over the bullying process, you are being set up for Learned Helplessness e. At the same time, you may be learning that you are helpless and hopeless, you are also learning how you are seen by bullies, which is to say, you are learning that you are seen by others as weak, pathetic, and a loser. And, by virtue of the way that identity tends to work, you are being set up to believe that these things the bullies are saying about you are true. It would be great if the average person was possessed of unshakable self confidence, but this just isnt how identity works. Identity is a social process. Other people contribute to it. Particularly when people are young and have not yet survived a few of lifes trials, it is difficult for people to know who they are and what they are made of.